“Life is either…

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.

Friday’s Affirmation Meditation compliments to Helen Keller’s well-worded insight.

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Friday Family Affirmation

The last day of the work week is here. Set your sights high on that long laundry-list of whatever it is… paperwork, housecleaning that was overlooked during the week, the three defrosted chicken breasts in the fridge that you never had time to bake… today throw out what you don’t need & move on. Literally, let go of the chicken =) … Figuratively…. leave your work at work today. Let your weekend be for you, your family, your kids, your spouse, & that book you bought 6 months ago & haven’t ‘found the time’ to crack open yet, or the bath tub you scrub but can’t remember the last time you laid in…

Not sure how the weekend always slips away while you have the best intentions to fulfill it? Try this:

Set aside 1 hour for each member of your family. Just that person. 1 for your spouse, 1 for you, 1 for each child, etc… & of course mix in some family time but don’t double dip, the one-on-one they will each appreciate & the kids will likely hold onto that little memory for a very long time. I know that my one-o-one time with my mom was very precious since she was a single mom who worked to support us and so was very often busy.

If one child comes in to interrupt your time with the other, simply say, ‘this is …..’s time, give us (x amount of time, put on a movie/go play outside) & I’ll come find you in a little while.’ By saying you will come get them this should help them get the idea that until you come they’ll play on their own, instead of them continuing to check in, ‘is it my turn yet?’ This is how I help my little girl stay in bed through the night ‘mommy will wake you up in the morning.’ So she knows unless she has to go potty, if mommy hasn’t woken her up yet (aka if it’s 4am & she’s waking up for 20 seconds.. it’s not time to start her day).

Tuesday Troubles

Today try writing a list of 10 things that trouble you. Then write a list of 10 things that you are grateful for. Compare… & smile =)

I think you’ll find that like me your list of troubles are out of your control, & so for me, that brought the smile on–knowing that I had to let go of those things because they were only causing me harm.

Here’s my list to get you going:

Troubles:

1. It’s hard to breathe: my nose is so very congested after we got rained out of our booth at an October Fest.

2. That NY is so expensive to live.

3. That I spend $150 on gas per week.

4. That I, and I quote from a mock argument with my partner, “I am a good cook; I just can’t boil.” Yes, I’m serious, I always seem to multi-task & boil over onto the new stove top.

5. That there are not enough hours in the day to get through my ‘to-do’ lists.

6. Alright, I’ll say it, I let “war in the middle east” take up space in my head. I know I have no control, & I sound like a beauty queen asking the audience for world peace, but it still scares me when I think about the fear of bombings in the street.

7. That I did not get out to the zoo or on vacation this summer although we had ‘every intention’ the days just got away from us.

8. That I feel constantly pulled by work, parenting, the illustrious ‘me’ time, & maintaining a home. I suppose I am just yet learning the give & take of balance.

9. That people I loved have passed without warning, without reason, so young.

10. That my basement apartment in the winter is a little depressing, less light everywhere & such.

Gratitude: 

1. My daughter is healthy.

2. I only have a little cold today, not the flu.

3. My fridge is full of pre-made food so I don’t need to cook again for a few days. That means I get 2 extra hours to relax with a cup of tea & play puzzles on the floor with the little one.

4. That I have inherited my mother’s beloved truck after she passed & I smile each time I drive it & think of happy memories driving together.

5. That I have such a loving partner who supports me in what I choose to endeavor into, brings me coffee in the morning, & makes me laugh all day long.

6. That I have such a thoughtful daughter who is truly coming into her own at 4 & I’m so happy with who she is becoming.

7. Blue skies & cool air that carries the crispness of autumn & the warmness of families with the smell of burning wood in fireplaces.

8. Grateful that I continue to try a little more each day, to read an extra story, to plan an extra movie night, to do just a little more to try & bring family, work, & play all together in balance. Although I certainly am not great at it yet, I am grateful that I keep going, never taking the easy way out.

9. That my mother, before she passed, met my daughter.

10. That I have an roof over my head, even if it is just an apartment, I know that in time & it’ll be that nice house I day dream about.

Let it go

For me this quote means… Let it go. That THAT is the the answer to everything. Now, I’m not talking a sarcastic brush off, but a spiritual “giving it Up to God” kind of letting go. Because like the river which will always flow slowly away beneath us… Life happens around us, beyond our control, right under us… So open your grip, and let it slip between your fingertips. Let it flow on and grab the next handful of life in front of you. =)

Mother’s Day, now that I’m the only one

For me, I don’t think I miss my mother any more on holidays than I do when I can’t sleep & I reach to call her because I think she’s working the night shift and fiddling with her phone, or when I’m hurting & I just want to lay in bed next to her and watch a funny movie, or when I drive my truck (which was hers) and I remember her singing off key while she drove wildly.

I can tell you I am certainly not over my mother’s death, even now years later. But really, how long does it take to forget your mother? I hope never.

But I am content with the loss of her, I am grateful to have had the 19 amazing years with her I had & grateful still to have today even without her because I am with myself, my daughter, my partner, & everyone who makes up my family & community.

While my mother was alive she taught me how to survive, as a mother should. With her death my mother taught me to live well and live now.

For those of you who’ve lost your mother or any loved one: I know it hurts, believe me I do, but the pain lessens over memories and the joy increases. I wish you the best in your process, and wish you all a happy and joyful Mother’s Day.

I am passionate about sharing what I know, there’s a community in honest sharing & I enjoy talking with people &/or making them aware of ways to live healthy and happily. I enjoy helping them do that with what I do best: writing & my other creative endeavors in health like making safe, & 100%, obsessively natural cosmetics. I believe that the things we put on our body should be beneficial to us, not hurt us with their caustic ingredients, which is why I started making my own cosmetics & later why I started selling ‘spa quality’ so to speak, cosmetics for realistic, every-man prices. I believe that safety is not saved for the elites, it is a right that we all have access to. I am like I saide passionate about health & happiness & parenting is a part of that, so I strive to provide information on all relative topics… from the environment we need to protect for our kids, from the products we pt on their bodies, the food we feed them, & how we speak & interact with them, etc. Maybe the best way to put it is that I am passionate about life, living well through each day & I hope to share that with as many people as possible.

Cake for Your Thoughts

This post does have rules. (It’s my blog. I can do what I want.)

1. If you break it you buy it. If you read it, you interact with it.
2. If you don’t plan to participate, do not continue reading, do no pass go, do not collect $200.

We all have a cause.

We all have something that lights our fire, puts us on a soap box, and makes us want to do something to change the world.

Whether we share religious beliefs, core values, race, age, education, social status, blah, blah, blah—I have to think that we all want to make the world a better place.

Some of us express it better than others.
Some of us like to “stir the pot” and get people thinking.
Some of us are good “support staff”.
Some of us are good leaders.
Some of us are good followers.

Whatever your personality…

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For me, meditation allows me answers, peace, & acceptance of the change that sometime seems unyielding. This is a great post (which I read like a poem) on the process of meditation, this quote sums it up for me: “Meditation has taught me to measure release, and accept my fate. I am my pen, for existence has the magic to pause itself in moments of stillness and grasp you, the single evidence.” Evidence of what? Of itself? I love the open ending. This too is meditation for me, when I listen I hear the answers I need, for what I’m seeking to resolve, but they’re never concrete, they change as circumstance does, as I do, as the wind changes through the tree I’m rooted in, a moment passes & when it does so the world has changed again.