Tandem Breastfeeding on Television Means…

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Tandem Breastfeeding on Television: Phil & Lil breastfeeding on the show “Rugrats”

Today my daughter was watching an old episode of The Rugrats, and I noticed that Phil & Lil, as they reminisced about their first laugh together, brought the scene up of them breastfeeding together. I was surprised & happy to see such a normal representation of breastfeeding on television (granted this aired, what, 10? 15 years ago originally?) I suppose times have changed, but not too much. Still, Tommy’s mom (the ‘normal’ mom) bottle-fed while Phil & Lil’s mom Betty (the ‘radical feminist’ who’s token outfit sports the female symbol on her chest) is the one breastfeeding. But you know what? I’ll take it. =) I love that my daughter can watch mainstream television & feel normal because she too was breastfed just like them.

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Friday Family Affirmation

The last day of the work week is here. Set your sights high on that long laundry-list of whatever it is… paperwork, housecleaning that was overlooked during the week, the three defrosted chicken breasts in the fridge that you never had time to bake… today throw out what you don’t need & move on. Literally, let go of the chicken =) … Figuratively…. leave your work at work today. Let your weekend be for you, your family, your kids, your spouse, & that book you bought 6 months ago & haven’t ‘found the time’ to crack open yet, or the bath tub you scrub but can’t remember the last time you laid in…

Not sure how the weekend always slips away while you have the best intentions to fulfill it? Try this:

Set aside 1 hour for each member of your family. Just that person. 1 for your spouse, 1 for you, 1 for each child, etc… & of course mix in some family time but don’t double dip, the one-on-one they will each appreciate & the kids will likely hold onto that little memory for a very long time. I know that my one-o-one time with my mom was very precious since she was a single mom who worked to support us and so was very often busy.

If one child comes in to interrupt your time with the other, simply say, ‘this is …..’s time, give us (x amount of time, put on a movie/go play outside) & I’ll come find you in a little while.’ By saying you will come get them this should help them get the idea that until you come they’ll play on their own, instead of them continuing to check in, ‘is it my turn yet?’ This is how I help my little girl stay in bed through the night ‘mommy will wake you up in the morning.’ So she knows unless she has to go potty, if mommy hasn’t woken her up yet (aka if it’s 4am & she’s waking up for 20 seconds.. it’s not time to start her day).

Aftermath Resolutions

You must look into other people as well as at them.

– Lord Chesterfield

I know that during and after Super Storm Sandy we were all getting cabin fever here on the East Coast. Tensions were high, especially for those out of power for two weeks or those whose homes were washed away and ended up packing whole families into relative’s living rooms. Needless to say, nerves can fray and tensions can rise so high they remain palpable at the neck line.

So now that the power is back on, now that hopefully the temporary housing has opened up now that the workmen have gone back to their homes? How do you repair your family if you’ve lost your tempter or have just not been the best parent, spouse, aunt, uncle, son or daughter… you could be?

First. Let it go. Try letting it go in their court though. That is, apologize if it’s applicable to what you’re holding on to. Maybe not because you were to blame, it’s not about blame. It’s about responsibility, love, and respect. If you played a part, apologize for your part, and do NOT mention theirs. They will come to that on their own, in their own time. Or maybe, they were more hurt than you realized and hurt and resentment locks them up from admitting their part. This too is probable. So what do you do? Let it go. You’ve only got one consciousness, one mouth, one body that’s under your control so don’t try and manipulate theirs (even if you think you have the best intentions on repairing something; one person cannot fix it for the other).

The key to Letting Go is to respect yourself and say, I don’t want all that negative stuff brewing inside me anymore, I’m going to let it go. For others, it’s about looking at them and seeing their vulnerabilities, their pains, their mistakes, and their beauty. We are imperfect and that’s what makes us human, so don’t set the bar at perfection or else they and you will always be found lacking.

You’ve probably been reading this by now and thinking that this has 10% to do with Sandy and 90% to do with ourselves, our families, and how to healthily resolve problems. Well, you’re right. So if you’re a west-coast family unperturbed by Sandy, God Bless you too. You too can benefit from considering problem resolving and the key to family happiness (for me) of Letting Go of control, resentment, jealousy, blame, …… the  problem list goes on and on; isn’t it nice to know this one solution fits all?

Essential Oils For Kids

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“What essential oils are safe for different ages?”

Here is a brief chart for informational purposes only. I am not a physician, I am a mom with years of experience using and preparing essential oils for babies, toddlers, children, and adults. Note that essential oils should never be applied to a baby’s skin unless heavily diluted with water or oil or in a pre-mixed product.

Essential Oils for Babies 24 Hours & Up

Chamomile Roman
Chamomile German
Lavender
Yarrow
Dill

Essential Oils for Babies 2 Months & Up

All of the above, plus:
Mandarin
Eucalyptus
Coriander
Neroli

……6 MONTHS, 1 YEAR, 5 YEARS, & TEENAGERS…click here to read…

Tuesday Troubles

Today try writing a list of 10 things that trouble you. Then write a list of 10 things that you are grateful for. Compare… & smile =)

I think you’ll find that like me your list of troubles are out of your control, & so for me, that brought the smile on–knowing that I had to let go of those things because they were only causing me harm.

Here’s my list to get you going:

Troubles:

1. It’s hard to breathe: my nose is so very congested after we got rained out of our booth at an October Fest.

2. That NY is so expensive to live.

3. That I spend $150 on gas per week.

4. That I, and I quote from a mock argument with my partner, “I am a good cook; I just can’t boil.” Yes, I’m serious, I always seem to multi-task & boil over onto the new stove top.

5. That there are not enough hours in the day to get through my ‘to-do’ lists.

6. Alright, I’ll say it, I let “war in the middle east” take up space in my head. I know I have no control, & I sound like a beauty queen asking the audience for world peace, but it still scares me when I think about the fear of bombings in the street.

7. That I did not get out to the zoo or on vacation this summer although we had ‘every intention’ the days just got away from us.

8. That I feel constantly pulled by work, parenting, the illustrious ‘me’ time, & maintaining a home. I suppose I am just yet learning the give & take of balance.

9. That people I loved have passed without warning, without reason, so young.

10. That my basement apartment in the winter is a little depressing, less light everywhere & such.

Gratitude: 

1. My daughter is healthy.

2. I only have a little cold today, not the flu.

3. My fridge is full of pre-made food so I don’t need to cook again for a few days. That means I get 2 extra hours to relax with a cup of tea & play puzzles on the floor with the little one.

4. That I have inherited my mother’s beloved truck after she passed & I smile each time I drive it & think of happy memories driving together.

5. That I have such a loving partner who supports me in what I choose to endeavor into, brings me coffee in the morning, & makes me laugh all day long.

6. That I have such a thoughtful daughter who is truly coming into her own at 4 & I’m so happy with who she is becoming.

7. Blue skies & cool air that carries the crispness of autumn & the warmness of families with the smell of burning wood in fireplaces.

8. Grateful that I continue to try a little more each day, to read an extra story, to plan an extra movie night, to do just a little more to try & bring family, work, & play all together in balance. Although I certainly am not great at it yet, I am grateful that I keep going, never taking the easy way out.

9. That my mother, before she passed, met my daughter.

10. That I have an roof over my head, even if it is just an apartment, I know that in time & it’ll be that nice house I day dream about.

Cooking Together

So I’m adventuring into cooking again. It seems that creating is the key… whether cooking, writing, or making cosmetics; I’m happiest when I’m creative. And tonight I got to do that with my daughter, how cool is that? Tonight we made lasagna (which, while it sounds simple, this working mom hasn’t made lasagna in about a year). Although a few years ago, when she was a baby the lasagna had homemade sauce as well, I’m cooking with baby steps; after all, I am still working two jobs & being the full time single mommy. So, excuses aside– it’s time to cook! Here’s the recipe I improvised tonight:

“Lasagna With Hidden Veggies”

Ingredients:

3 cups fresh organic baby spinach (trying using the ‘baby’ variety because it’s less bitter & organic because spinach is a high pesticide product when bought conventionally & fresh because it contains the highest quantity of vitamins & nutrients)

1 lb part skim ricotta cheese (part skim because mama’s gaining weight, haha)

8 oz shredded mozzarella cheese (reserve a little for topping the lasagna)

1 jar tomato marinara sauce

1 egg

1 box lasagna noodles

1/4 cup parmesan cheese

(Protein option for us carnivores: 1 lb beef or turkey. Vegetarian: 1 block of tofu)

Directions:

1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees.

2. For us meat eaters, brown the meat in a skillet on the stove; drain grease into empty jar to discard safely (did you know that kitchen grease down your drain clogs your drain & puts dangerous oil particles into our water system?) & set aside.

3. Blend spinach with tomato sauce.

4. Mix cooked meat into the tomato/spinach sauce.

5. In a separate bowl, mix together: 1 egg, parmesan cheese, ricotta cheese, & shredded mozzarella. (If you’re using the tofu meatless option, mix the tofu into this mixture for color coordination.)

6. Layer lasagna: First put lasagna noodles in bottom of pan. Then put the cheese mixture on top. Then put the sauce mixture on top of that. Then the noodles again, etc until the pan is filled. Ideally the last layer is sauce & sprinkle with remaining shredded mozzarella)

7. Place in preheated oven for 45 minutes. Let stand 5-10 minutes before cutting into & serving. Enjoy!!

Let me know how it turned out! Were your kids or hubbie surprised or oblivious to the veggies? (that’s what I was after!) 

Endocrine Disruptors: A Toxic Result of Plastic pollution

My Brain

The endocrine system is essentially the system through which our glands, lymph nodes, gonads, pancreas, and other hormonal organs operate. The instructions given by our endocrine system through different hormones cause many of the fundamental processes that keep us alive.

Endocrine disruptors are chemicals that can alter the endocrine processes by simulating the chemical structure of a hormone or acting in a similar manner when processed through the body. Endocrine disruptors exist in nature, but the most toxic ones have been synthesized by man.

Understand that a small change in our endocrine system can have devastating long term effects on our emotional and physical health. So, this understood, endocrine disruptors must exist in small quantities in very few highly dangerous industrial conditions, right?

Wrong. The sad truth is that many endocrine disruptors exist in our everyday lives in the form of pesticides, dental sealants, perfumes, soaps, and common disposable plastics…

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