Friday Family Affirmation

The last day of the work week is here. Set your sights high on that long laundry-list of whatever it is… paperwork, housecleaning that was overlooked during the week, the three defrosted chicken breasts in the fridge that you never had time to bake… today throw out what you don’t need & move on. Literally, let go of the chicken =) … Figuratively…. leave your work at work today. Let your weekend be for you, your family, your kids, your spouse, & that book you bought 6 months ago & haven’t ‘found the time’ to crack open yet, or the bath tub you scrub but can’t remember the last time you laid in…

Not sure how the weekend always slips away while you have the best intentions to fulfill it? Try this:

Set aside 1 hour for each member of your family. Just that person. 1 for your spouse, 1 for you, 1 for each child, etc… & of course mix in some family time but don’t double dip, the one-on-one they will each appreciate & the kids will likely hold onto that little memory for a very long time. I know that my one-o-one time with my mom was very precious since she was a single mom who worked to support us and so was very often busy.

If one child comes in to interrupt your time with the other, simply say, ‘this is …..’s time, give us (x amount of time, put on a movie/go play outside) & I’ll come find you in a little while.’ By saying you will come get them this should help them get the idea that until you come they’ll play on their own, instead of them continuing to check in, ‘is it my turn yet?’ This is how I help my little girl stay in bed through the night ‘mommy will wake you up in the morning.’ So she knows unless she has to go potty, if mommy hasn’t woken her up yet (aka if it’s 4am & she’s waking up for 20 seconds.. it’s not time to start her day).

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Tuesday Troubles

Today try writing a list of 10 things that trouble you. Then write a list of 10 things that you are grateful for. Compare… & smile =)

I think you’ll find that like me your list of troubles are out of your control, & so for me, that brought the smile on–knowing that I had to let go of those things because they were only causing me harm.

Here’s my list to get you going:

Troubles:

1. It’s hard to breathe: my nose is so very congested after we got rained out of our booth at an October Fest.

2. That NY is so expensive to live.

3. That I spend $150 on gas per week.

4. That I, and I quote from a mock argument with my partner, “I am a good cook; I just can’t boil.” Yes, I’m serious, I always seem to multi-task & boil over onto the new stove top.

5. That there are not enough hours in the day to get through my ‘to-do’ lists.

6. Alright, I’ll say it, I let “war in the middle east” take up space in my head. I know I have no control, & I sound like a beauty queen asking the audience for world peace, but it still scares me when I think about the fear of bombings in the street.

7. That I did not get out to the zoo or on vacation this summer although we had ‘every intention’ the days just got away from us.

8. That I feel constantly pulled by work, parenting, the illustrious ‘me’ time, & maintaining a home. I suppose I am just yet learning the give & take of balance.

9. That people I loved have passed without warning, without reason, so young.

10. That my basement apartment in the winter is a little depressing, less light everywhere & such.

Gratitude: 

1. My daughter is healthy.

2. I only have a little cold today, not the flu.

3. My fridge is full of pre-made food so I don’t need to cook again for a few days. That means I get 2 extra hours to relax with a cup of tea & play puzzles on the floor with the little one.

4. That I have inherited my mother’s beloved truck after she passed & I smile each time I drive it & think of happy memories driving together.

5. That I have such a loving partner who supports me in what I choose to endeavor into, brings me coffee in the morning, & makes me laugh all day long.

6. That I have such a thoughtful daughter who is truly coming into her own at 4 & I’m so happy with who she is becoming.

7. Blue skies & cool air that carries the crispness of autumn & the warmness of families with the smell of burning wood in fireplaces.

8. Grateful that I continue to try a little more each day, to read an extra story, to plan an extra movie night, to do just a little more to try & bring family, work, & play all together in balance. Although I certainly am not great at it yet, I am grateful that I keep going, never taking the easy way out.

9. That my mother, before she passed, met my daughter.

10. That I have an roof over my head, even if it is just an apartment, I know that in time & it’ll be that nice house I day dream about.

Tips to Save Time, Money & Mother Earth From Your Kitchen

  • Grow your own food. Gardening is suprisingly easy, especially if you start from plants instead of seeds but of course buying seeds is much more cost-effective. For example, one organic zucchini plant cost me $4 but one package of about 50 heritage, organic, Zucchini seeds from a small supplier cost me only $2. Gardening is a fun activity to do with kids too. When my daughter was an infant I wore her in a front sling when I was in the garden, & when she started wanting to help more I gave her a little plastic shovel & she mixed the soil up beside me.
  • Not only can you make your own food but for those with little ones… make delicious fresh organic baby food for pennies. Pureeing baby food & packaging it in freezer trays for later is also a fun activity to do with bigger children.
  • If you can’t or prefer not to harvest your own do your gest to buy local & in season. You will save money, support your local farms & economy, & neighbors. You will also save on the emissionsthat the trucks give off bringing their lot from california or mexico to your super market.
  • When you need fresh produce & local is not available, buy organic! Organic is not only better for your health but better for the environment, saving the soil, the water supply, & the wildlife, just to name a few 😉
  • Make large batches of food with fresh ingredients or fully cooked dinners & freeze excess in BPA free freezer trays.
  • Note, if you freeze baby food & you find your baby doesn’t like that particular vegetable, don’t worry, adding those pureed veggies to tomatoe sauce, melted cheesees, & mashed potatoes works great for adding whole foods & vitamins to meals in a sneaky way.